The Dess rant has been deemed necessary.
Mon May 14 20:03:49 EDT 2001
Okay, so I said I'd spare you. But this is just too messed up and
I need to get it out. And who's playground is this, anyway ? If you
don't like it, you're free to take your ball and go home.
This is going to be as accurate as I can remember it, although I am
sure my memory is at least a little flawed.
I met Dess's sister through a friend of mine. She seemed to find
me rather entertaining, and decided it was necessary to introduce me
to Dess, who was single at the time. Dess was single then because she
had just broken up with Steve because she found him worthless. I've been told
(by Dess) that Steve pays no attention to her, and has a son who's life
he does not participate in without being forced. Dess told me that she considered the years she had spent with him a waste.
For some reason, Dess got back together with Steve just before Dess
and I were finally introduced. The next day I was informed that after
meeting me, Dess regretted having gotten back together with Steve.
She was interested in me. I was interested in her.
I then learned that Dess and Steve live with a couple roommates, one
of which runs the household. This roommate is the mother of Steve's child
(who's life he doesn't participate in). They have lived like this for
several years. At this point you may realize that I completely deserved
whatever suffering I may have endured as a result of getting involved
in this mess.
But it gets better.
This roommate does not have a job, and lives off of Dess. I think
she is also going to college. And is a bit of a drug addict.
Meanwhile all of Dess's paychecks from multiple jobs get deposited
directly into an account which the roommate pays bills from, and Dess
pays no attention to. And Dess scrounges for change to eat.
Not real long after Dess and I were introduced, there was a wedding
that she, I, her sister, and my friend all attended (2/17/01?). That night Dess
and I spent cuddled up on her sister/my friend's sofa. The next day it
was apparent that something needed to be done about Steve.
Dess broke up with Steve. Steve proceeded to do stuff he hadn't been
doing at all, like participating in the household (cleaning), taking Dess
to the zoo, etc. It didn't sink in to him that the breakup was final.
The night that Dess finally got around to making it clear to Steve
that the breakup was final, he was admitted, at his request, to a mental
institution.
When he got out, Steve was regularly seen attached to another of their
roommates, which Dess had been suspicious of having an interest in him.
Then Dess and I had our fun for a bit. Our schedules clashed
rather horribly. I work basically 2nd shift, Monday-Friday, she works
about 3rd shift, 5 random days of the week. The time we spent together
I greatly enjoyed. It was, unfortunately, very little time. One day
Dess and her sister cleaned my house while I was at work, which I still
greatly appreciate.
Me, Dess, the roommate, and her boyfriend sat down and had a rather
nice and somewhat lengthy conversation, mostly about me. I felt kind
of like I was being interviewed, but didn't mind. I can understand a
caring friend wanting to know more about this new guy her friend was with.
During the conversation, the roommate commented, somewhat proudly, that
she had quite successfully arranged her household to suit her.
Dess went away with the roommate on a camping trip for a weekend.
This resulted in our not getting to see each other for a whole two weeks.
I was
really looking forward to picking her up and spending some
time with her. Unfortunately, it turned out her plans were a little
different than I had been lead to believe. Instead of coming home with
me, she broke up with me (4/14/01).
Her reasons were that she agreed with me that she really needed to
spend some time single (which she's never really done) - but on top of
that she thought now was a good time, and that she was frustrated with
how little she got to see me. Didn't make much sense to me.
Several days ago (5/9/01?) I heard that Steve asked Dess to marry him,
and she said yes.
Everything you have read up to this point is, to the best of my knowledge, fact.
Here's what I think happened:
The roommate, of course, wants to keep Dess around so Dess can
continue to pay her bills. The roommate is also intelligent enough to
realize that I would probably find their arrangement unfair, and express
my concerns to Dess. This makes me an inconvenience to the roommate.
Steve, on the other hand, is quite convenient. Since Dess is such a
nice and caring person, as long as she is attached to Steve, she would
never leave, because that would mean taking Steve away from his son
(who's mother is the roommate). This means that as long as Dess is
attached to Steve, the roommate gets to keep Dess.
That's pretty much it. I am not at all upset with the actions of Dess
or Steve. I believe Steve acted as any man would - just wanting to get
his woman back, even if he did not deserve her. Dess.. I think did what
she thought was best. I do not know if she realizes why. I am concerned
that Dess may not be paying much attention to what is good for her.
I think that if it suited the roommate, she would not hesitate to
abandon Dess.
I think the whole situation is rather sad, twisted,
demented.... wrong. Dess is such a nice person, being... very used.
If I happened to be at the wedding, and they did that "If any have a
reason why these two should not be wed, speak now or forever hold your
peace" thing, I would feel obligated to stand up and explain this mess
to all present.
Let us hope that this is the last that you or I hear about Dess, and that she and Steve live happily ever after.
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